Sunday, May 29, 2016

Radiating Kindness


When we are angry or upset, to respond with kindness is the hardest thing to do. During such moments, snapping at people around us comes naturally. But the residue of such spontaneous negative reactions is always bitter.

I have not been the kindest of persons in words. While dealing with people in the outside world like the workplace, I have acted with utmost patience. But with my near and dear ones, it has been extremely easier and convenient to lose patience and be rude; when it is most important to be the kindest to your own family.

But once you start practicing kindness consciously, through your thoughts, words, actions and reactions, it becomes a part of who you are. And I feel that I have been doing much better now in the recent years.

When someone angers us, to respond kindly can prevent a fight. When we are upset, not snapping at people around us can prevent more people from getting upset. When someone is being unkind to us, to be kind in return can be the most salving form of revenge. With time, kindness would become an effortless habit and we would become radiant with kindness.


In the past week, I was kind in thoughts and words by:

  • Saying "Thank you" to the auto-rikshaw driver when he drops me very morning at my office.
  • Not getting mad at the office-boys for not cleaning something after repeated reminders.
  • Responding in the kindest manner possible to an adverse comment on a book review I wrote.
  • Noticing how my family is kind to me in small and subtle ways, like saving me a bit of soft-drinks, getting me a glass of lassi (a cold drink made of yogurt) or doing my portion of dishes.
  • Not blaming anyone for the dirty corner and cleaning it myself.
  • Not being mad at my bestie for not calling me back as I know she must be really tied up.
I am taking part in the first ever Kindness Challenge (2016) hosted by Nikki from The Richness Of A Simple Life.
 

 The weekly prompts:
Week 1: Start you day with kindness
Week 2: Observe kindness around you
Week 3: Focus your energy on being kind to others
Week 4: Focus on doing something kind for someone
Week 5: End your day thinking about kindness
Week 6: Think about someone that inspires you to be better, kinder, gentler
Week 7: Do something kind for someone and keep it to yourself

Friday, May 20, 2016

The Kindness Around Us


In this fast-paced life, we seldom have the leisure to stop and look around. But when we spare a moment, we can always see something beautiful, something soft standing out in this ugly and harsh human world.

I stay in Delhi, the capital city of India; and I personally feel that it is an unkind city (Read about it here). So whenever I see a little kindness around me, a bit of faith is restored.

I see kindness when--
  • An auto-rickshaw stops to let a man cross the road.
  • Fellow metro commuters make space for each other to sit.
  • I am home due to ill-health and my youngest brother-in-law makes me a sandwich.
  • When a car-driver apologizes for making a wrong move.
  • When I reach home late evening  to a sink full of dirty dishes, and my maid-cook washes them when I leave the kitchen for a moment (doing dirty dishes is not a part of her job description).
  • A young woman gives up her seat for a older/pregnant woman or some woman with a young child.
  • When I commit some error and my boss doesn't shout at me but points out politely and advises how to rectify it.
  • When I hit someone accidentally in the metro and apologize, she says it's okay (many women snap back very rudely)    
  • I act illogically snappy but my husband responds with kind and loving words.

It seems people are becoming more impatient and unkinder with each passing day. But even in this gloomy scenario, we can see tremendous kindness all around us, that is if we choose to see it. And witnessing one act of kindness is enough to bring positivity into any particular day. So let's look for kindness everyday and make this world a kinder place. 

I am taking part in the first ever Kindness Challenge (2016) hosted by Nikki from The Richness Of A Simple Life. 

The weekly prompts: 
Week 1: Start you day with kindness
Week 2: Observe kindness around you
Week 3: Focus your energy on being kind to others
Week 4: Focus on doing something kind for someone
Week 5: End your day thinking about kindness
Week 6: Think about someone that inspires you to be better, kinder, gentler
Week 7: Do something kind for someone and keep it to yourself

Monday, May 9, 2016

Starting With Kindness

A corner of my workstation
It is so easy to whine and complain, isn't it! Everyday, we have something to complain about. But to be thankful, to be grateful for what we have and what the hardships we have been spared is perhaps the most difficult task for most of us.

The last seven days I had to start the day with kindness. The first thing in the morning I was supposed to think about was the things I am grateful for, the things I love about myself and read an inspirational quote everyday.

There are so many things in my life (including life itself) for which I am grateful and thankful to the Almighty. I believe I have covered most of it in my post "Thankful & Grateful=Happy".

Before we can be kind to others, it is very important that we are kind to ourselves. I am kind to myself by taking out time to do the things that I love doing like reading for an hour everyday, writing, keeping a few plants and the like. More on self-kindness in my post "The Oil For Your Lamp".

At office, I don't like to have only stuff relating to work on my workstation. I have shared a corner of my desk in the above picture. And as you can see, I can read the following quote every workday.

"Appreciation can make day, even change a life. Your willingness to put into words is all that is necessary" ~ Margaret Cousins

Don't you think, appreciation is a type of kindness? I believe if each one of us sheds our ego and appreciate the other person with a clean heart, the world will become such a kinder and happy place.

I am taking part in the first ever Kindness Challenge (2016) hosted by Nikki from The Richness Of A Simple Life.

The weekly prompts:
Week 1: Start you day with kindness
Week 2: Observe kindness around you
Week 3: Focus your energy on being kind to others
Week 4: Focus on doing something kind for someone
Week 5: End your day thinking about kindness
Week 6: Think about someone that inspires you to be better, kinder, gentler
Week 7: Do something kind for someone and keep it to yourself