Tuesday, February 14, 2017

Make or Break

 
How do you feel in the aftermath of a fight or a tiff off with your spouse/partner? Are you able to go about your life as if nothing happened? Personally I feel as if something heavy is placed on my heart and the sun is not shining upon me anymore. May be you feel the same way too. Then how do you go on when the one thing you do consistently in your love life is fight?

When we are not at peace or happy in our personal relationships, we cannot do anything right. We cannot concentrate on any tasks at hand or carry out our duties/responsibilities properly. When our relationships are gloomy, everything around us become gloomy. And it applies to both partners, irrespective of their gender. 

Your partner is not a perfect person. But again nobody is perfect. So neither are you. But together you two can be perfect. When you accept a person in your life, you need to do that with all his/her imperfections and misgivings. 

We all commit mistakes in our lives. But we cannot hold grudges against each other for things we said or did in the past. Forgive and move on, that's the mantra. Else, you will only destroy yourselves and the people around you. It is hard to forgive, but it's much more harder to admit when we are wrong ourselves. But it is only wise to apologize and move on. Like love, forgiveness is also a two-way street. And open communication is the path. 
 
They say a woman can either make a home or break one. Yes, it is true. But step one is that a woman can either make her man or break him. Being a woman is not easy. And when it comes to being the woman in your man's life, it ​is not a piece of cake. Girlfriends and wives widely have the reputation of being naggers and destroyers of peace in their man's life, someone who enjoys wasting their man's hard earned money. We are the butt of all popular jokes in the market. Laugh they all may, but we play a life-changing role in our man's life.
 
Men may be strong physically; but emotionally, they are weak. And that's where we come in. We are the backbone o​f our man's life. Even though most of them will never admit it. They say that behind every successful man, there is a woman. True again. But other than professional, financial or social success, that success can very well be in the form of happiness, peace of mind and emotional stability as well. And when a man is emotionally stable, happy and at peace, he is all set to achieve anything he wants. 

I feel that being an woman is a process of continuous evolution. Becoming a wife from a girlfriend is the ultimate commitment. You become the better half of your man. And to truly become the better half, you have to first become a better person yourself.

Ladies, you have a much bigger role to play in the circle of life than you can ever imagine. It is you who has the true power to mold and nurture the family. You are the beginning of change because you set examples for the youngest generation. You can set the course of your personal life as well as the family at large in the direction you want. Mrs. Portokalos in the movie "My Big Fat Greek Wedding" rightly says that if the husband is called the head of the family, then the wife is the neck, and the head cannot move without the neck's cooperation!

A healthy marital partnership starts with being the solid shoulder of your husband in all spheres of life. You have to pick him up when he falls, correct him when he errs, be his honest critic and his north star. You are the one who can bring out the best as well the worst in him. You can be the rock which either  anchors him or shatters him. So, you will have to decide, whether you want to make your man or break him.

In the modern world of "feminism", I might be sounding like old school! I am not asking to you take shit. But we do not have the right to give shit either. After all, true feminism is about equality, isn't it? And no matter in which age we might live in, the ingredients of a healthy relationship are very much still the same.


More on nurturing a healthy relationship in "The Thing Called Love" .